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I am a Girl by enchantma I am a Girl by enchantma
I really didn't want this to come out as bitter as it did, but I get into "Girl Power" mode occasionally. I often get tired of being mistreated as a girl or watching my friends get hurt and taken advantage of. The past several weeks I've witnessed abuse in every form, not just in my life, but a lot of people around me have been crying on my shoulder. Whether it's a relationship or a work situation, I see girls in pain.
I wish I could give each one of you a hug and tell you it's going to be okay. I wish I could tell girls who are hurting to stop feeling hurt.
If you're in a relationship where a guy is not giving you all you need, please step away from it or see a counselor to make it work. There is no reason to ever settle. You're worth more! Never think otherwise. Your life partner does not define you. You are always your own person.
And I'm here if you ever need to vent or talk it out.
Life is short and has so much to offer, so make it the best life ever! Only you can achieve your own happiness.

This is a poem I wrote to channel these feelings that are coming from so many of you and myself in a more encouraging direction. It's also my first attempt at doing anything with typography, so if you're a pro at that, please let me know how I can make this better.

xoxo <3

EDIT: I feel like this message might have come off as out of hand sexist. The "you" I speak to in this piece is an abuser. I didn't even specify anything about this being against men. This is not about ALL men. I have nothing against guys. I have great men in my life, but I speak as a girl about my experience of being objectified in specific situations because of my gender. I didn't want to have to explain this since art is about your personal interpretation, but I do not want to hurt anyone - especially guys. This is very personal and I wanted to share it as an art piece. I also wanted this to become a mantra for girls who need to recognize how strong they are. I am grateful for all the feedback and I'm still going through all the comments. Thank you everyone for your responses and/or support, I love hearing what you have to say!

EDIT 2:You asked for it, so here it is...The "I am a Girl" t-shirt is now available online! [link]

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:iconpandora-hearts-freak:
Pandora-Hearts-Freak Featured By Owner Apr 26, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Well thought, Empowering, beautiful. :)
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1RockGirl121 Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
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minecrafroger Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
epic!
i'm a dude, and even I get anoyed when ever i hear a dude who act like Girl's are just sex-toys
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RMXTrailMix Featured By Owner Jan 28, 2015
This always falls on deaf years; those of us that take it seriously feel emasculated and the men whom this is directed at could care less.
I was a victim of women directing their outrage and frustration of inconsiderate men; and the men that treated them badly, well, they never gave a dam because there was always a woman there for them.
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Briannabater Featured By Owner Nov 26, 2014  Professional Photographer
Yay
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JoePhilliacTheBlack Featured By Owner Nov 26, 2014  Professional Traditional Artist
Nice!
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:iconmckill316:
Mckill316 Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2014
FUK YE!! IM MAYBE A DUDE BUT FUCK IT I WANT AN EQUAL SOCIETY OR HOWEVER THE FUCK YOU SPELL IT!!!
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:iconihamza995:
ihamza995 Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
EQUALITY FOR EVERYONE!
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:iconlisandra-chan:
Lisandra-chan Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2014  Student General Artist
I am just so tired of that bunch of men that can not see something like this without commenting "OOOH BUT NOT ALL MEN! AND THE NICE GUYS? DONT FORGET THE NICE GUYS!!! I AM NOT LIKE THIS! WHY ARE U GIRLS SO MEAN?!". 
Like, yeah, dude, we know not all men are like this, we have families and friends, you know? Do they want a special prize for being a decent human being? A pat on the head for respecting others? We, men and women, need to work together to end sexism and gender roles. So, boys, if you are really that nice guys we need you to teach some people out there how to be like that, not to lessen posts like this.

Beautiful design. Girls, you can go as far ans you want!!
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RMXTrailMix Featured By Owner Jan 28, 2015
When women stop rewarding men for bad behavior, then those men will start to listen.
I've seen women gyrate to the most abusive, most inconsiderate, most immature men. Something happens, she vents, and then returns right to him.

As a Hispanic I see this all the time in my culture. A woman rants about her drunk spouse and then loves him the next night. When a woman comes up to me, the first thing she asks is "do you drink", I say no, and she turns around and walks the other way.
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BBChild Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2014   Traditional Artist
"I am of greater or equal value."
Wait what.
Greater value?  
What.

No, women are definitely not "of greater value" than men.  That's an extremely sexist idea.  Good grief, we're equals.  No gender is better than the other.
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willow-wishes Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2014
Did you read the artist's description?

" I feel like this message might have come off as out of hand sexist. The "you" I speak to in this piece is an abuser. I didn't even specify anything about this being against men. This is not about ALL men. I have nothing against guys. I have great men in my life, but I speak as a girl about my experience of being objectified in specific situations because of my gender. I didn't want to have to explain this since art is about your personal interpretation, but I do not want to hurt anyone - especially guys. This is very personal and I wanted to share it as an art piece. I also wanted this to become a mantra for girls who need to recognize how strong they are. I am grateful for all the feedback and I'm still going through all the comments. Thank you everyone for your responses and/or support, I love hearing what you have to say!"
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:iconbbchild:
BBChild Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2014   Traditional Artist
Great little description.

But that still doesn't change how disgusted I am with the "of greater or equal value" part.  You can create a "mantra for girls" without putting down men in the process.  Giving individuals false ideas that they are better than everyone else is not empowering, it is misleading and WRONG on so many levels.
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YamareiKuroyamiMashi Featured By Owner Dec 14, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
I agree with you BBChild.
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ShadowofWOPR Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2014
"greater or equal value"
No...  Stick with equal, but when you say "greater or equal" it makes you sound really egotistical.  To say "you're not better, you're equal or lesser to us" makes you just as bad as the men this is obviously directed at.

Rest is fine though, except maybe beautiful, that's such a subjective word I think you'd be better off using "Proud" or "Independent", it gets the message across better.
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YamareiKuroyamiMashi Featured By Owner Dec 14, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
You're right. It does come off as sexist and egotistical to me at least.
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willow-wishes Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2014
The artist states that she does not mean men in general, and given the context I read in the description I would say it's not at all egoistical to say that.
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:iconbbchild:
BBChild Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2014   Traditional Artist
Haha, I just posted a similar comment!  That "greater" part really stuck out for me too.  T.T
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Luna2200 Featured By Owner Jul 13, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
This is really good
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BloodLily16 Featured By Owner Apr 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
GIRL POWER BABY!!!
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:iconi-love-daisy:
i-love-daisy Featured By Owner Mar 19, 2014
true bloody true
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InuDante Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
All I'm saying here is hell yes!
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:iconbrushogen:
Brushogen Featured By Owner Jan 19, 2014
Where have you been all my life? And why haven't I found wonderful, beautiful, you until now?
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:iconartsuper123:
ArtSUPER123 Featured By Owner Dec 19, 2013
I love girl power. And I hate how sexist some men are. 
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Jennyshielder Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2013  Student General Artist
where we all come from at birth ? Some men always forgot it. Proud to be, proud to live
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GermanOtakuPerson Featured By Owner Oct 30, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Amen to that.

I honestly hate how some men believe they can push us around and use us as objects that are meant to do nothing but work for them. Just because we have just a few different body parts doesn't mean that they are greater than us. We do NOT belong in the kitchen or doing all the chores, and we sure as hell aren't their slaves.
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somisistaA Featured By Owner Oct 29, 2013  Student General Artist
amenDango-cool
 
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DarkProphet05 Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Wow i wish this could be displayed everywhere and not just online (im thinking the big display in NY's Times Square). I am a guy who believes in gender equality, with acceptance that each gender has a downside that is occasionally negative.
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enchantma Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
Thank you for your feedback! I appreciate it!
And thank you for understanding the piece for what it stands for...It's disappointing that people are taking this as a sexist message. Yay for gender equality!
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AnnaKlava Featured By Owner Sep 29, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
:iconclapplz: I love this piece. It's not sexist at all and I can see exactly where people are coming from with this, although never experienced it myself. I really, truly hate abusive people regardless of what sex they are. I do, however see a lot of girls holding onto shitty guys more than guys holding onto shitty girls. And this needs to be said.
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enchantma Featured By Owner Oct 1, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
Thank you, SB! I appreciate you recognizing the true message here <3
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AnnaKlava Featured By Owner Oct 1, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
No problem!
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Allycat909 Featured By Owner Sep 7, 2013  Hobbyist Artist
DANM RIGHT!
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Karategirl2012 Featured By Owner Aug 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Chill girl!  I'm a girl too!
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DANOFF Featured By Owner Jul 13, 2013
I'm a guy of 37 years old and my super active hormones have finally combed down. After having screwed up my teens and 20's with always saying the wrong thing, i just wish i could go back and say I'm sorry to all the people that I offended back then... :-)
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pippy-lunalove Featured By Owner Jul 2, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
thats awesome. mine if i had that i would add:
"I AM A GIRL I LIKE VULTURES!"
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:iconenchantma:
enchantma Featured By Owner Jul 2, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
haha!
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EGClark Featured By Owner May 10, 2013  Professional Traditional Artist
Love this message! But the honest truth coming from a guy who works with women in an all girls facility for young adults, sometimes, its the girls who are the abusers, bastards, and all around a-holes in a relationship. I know I've dated one before...it sucked.
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:iconenchantma:
enchantma Featured By Owner May 11, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
Sorry for your experience :(
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:iconegclark:
EGClark Featured By Owner May 12, 2013  Professional Traditional Artist
Hey, you live and learn. Like I said, wonderful message for girls who have no self-esteem!
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:iconenchantma:
enchantma Featured By Owner May 12, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
Indeed! And thank you (:
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Lady-Satra Featured By Owner Apr 23, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
What are you doing here? Why aren't you washing? GO TO THE KITCHEN NOW.
Ok,I'm just kidding,i'm a girl too XD
(But I love that types of jokes)
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Togrutaboy836 Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I am a guy, and for any girl who has suffered at the hands of a jerk..I am sorry. Not all guys are like that though, I would never hurt anyone for no reason. The worse I've done is feel a girl's hair and complement it. Now that I think, I actually defended a girl in this situation.
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FruitBat2011 Featured By Owner Apr 14, 2013
Right on, sister.
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Kritone Featured By Owner Apr 11, 2013  Student General Artist
This is AWESOME!!! I agree %100

Girls only make $0.86 for every guy that makes $1.00

Not saying guys are all jerks or girls are always better, but girls are given way too little recognition, especially in history.
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I-love-Doitsu Featured By Owner Apr 2, 2013  Student Writer
Awesome Frau :meow:
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MintGreenGum-Harley Featured By Owner Mar 25, 2013  Student Digital Artist
This is just what I needed to make my day! :la:
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:iconenchantma:
enchantma Featured By Owner Apr 4, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
Hurray~
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emredemirhan Featured By Owner Mar 4, 2013  Professional Interface Designer
nice typography. nice girl :)
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